It started in the pit of my stomach. An uneasiness. A nagging pang. I couldn’t put my finger on it at first. The way he left the house, swiftly saying goodbye.  That faraway look in his eyes at the dinner table. And then September 2003, what seemed to be all of a sudden, WHAM! There it was.  Without ever seeing him in action, I knew it at my core nonetheless: I found out my husband was cheating on me. On ME:

A woman with her Doctorate in Organizational Leadership who’d spent over a decade leading Fortune 500 companies to successfully complete projects on time while yielding over 40% increases in revenues.

A woman of God who not only went to church on the regular but read Scripture on her own. Who went on retreats seeking His council, who tithed, for His sake–Why on earth did this happen to me?  How? And how dare the father of my child do this to me?

Sound emotionally familiar? Sound insurmountable? Well, then you’re in the right place. And the good news is that it’s not! It’s completely surmountable. Not easy, but doable.

The isolating shame of infidelity leads to crippling, self-righteous anger that fills every fiber of your body. The sensation of it can begin to feel rewarding or justified, but I’m here to tell you that it’s not. It’s just a by-product. It’s the pain related to beyond-failed expectations. And it, too, will pass, like all else in this life. Coping or tolerating the hurt and pain was not an option for me. I had to seek a way back to loving life and having gratitude– a journey, if you will. With God’s guidance, I most certainly did.  It was a long and arduous process and it’s ever ongoing, but I can honestly say that my life now is infinitely better than it was even before I suffered the despair of infidelity.

Did I mention that we stuck it out? My husband and I endured our season of infidelity. I’m not only better; we are both better, as individuals and as a married couple.

W.H.O.L.E – Wives Healing Openly Leaving Him Exalted powered by KE³ Worldwide Enterprises,  was birthed after coming face to face with infidelity in my own marriage. I’m not here to tell you what your journey is; I am here to help you find it and strategize so you too can live a vibrant life of peace, joy, and wholeness. I look forward to supporting you along your journey.

I can’t wait to meet you!